| INHIBITION OF SEXUAL DESIRE |
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| Monday, 12 April 2010 05:37 | |||||
 The creation based on repression and negative influences regarding
sexuality brought strong effect on female sexual life. Thus, many
continue oppressing their desires and living conditions strongly
conflicting with great emotional result. In our society the idea
prevailed that the honest woman felt no sexual desire, sex was for men
or women who were not serious. Thus, education was that sexuality did
not surface based on notions of sin and guilt - an idea that still
contaminates the present. The sexual revolution of the 60s brought a
way to change these values is now realizing a quest for sexual
satisfaction and balance.
In some cultures sex is still taboo and viewed as sinful. In Brazil, women are still influenced to repress their desires, on the other hand, one sees also a stereotypical sexuality, dictated by fashion magazines, calling the experience sexual freedom. It turns out that if a woman does not fit into this script, just think you are suffering from lack of desire. Another issue to be pointed out is the confusion between the figure of women maternal and sexual, as these performances were inconsistent. Is still sustained a stereotype in relation to the figure of the mother refuses the sexual side and female on behalf of motherhood. Concept The human sexual response cycle consists of desire, arousal and orgasm. There is no requirement to enjoy all these phases, however, the absence of some constant, indicates that something is wrong. The first stage, lust is the trigger of the whole relationship, ie where it all begins: the intention, the willingness to approach each other and show themselves receptive. Hormones and neurotransmitters are involved in specialized induces specific sensations, prompting the search for sexual experience. However, human sexual desire can not be compared to simple physiological drives such as thirst or hunger. This is a subjective phenomenon experienced by the body, and often relates to external stimuli, and are much more complex. Collaborate to their training sexual fantasies, the receptivity of the partner (a), the onset of sexual behavior, genital sensations, responses to erotic cues from the environment, the initiation of masturbation, among others. Another issue involved in sexual motivation is the evaluation made of the partner (a). When it is positive, the person will have to relate sexually. Any stimulus may be reinforcing, as (a) partner (a) being a good father (mother) or to be admired (a) professionally. When it is negative, it will be lost. Feelings of hurt and disappointment undermine the desire for (a) partner (a), the investment in the relationship. Hypoactive sexual desire is characterized by a decrease or complete absence of erotic fantasies, besides the lack of initiative to the sexual act and Trail sexual relationship. Ie, low coital frequency shows a lack of spontaneous sexual desire, but one should take into consideration the age and life context. It is as if the emphasis had sex asleep. Thus, issues related to the desire usually generate a great distress because they are stressful enough to influence the whole motivation of the couple as there is an impediment to engagement with the (a) partner (a), who complains of lack of intimacy or reciprocity . Thus, such a disorder, which can affect both men and women, is a situation that could motivate serious complications and emotional problems in intimate relationships. It can be seen in women, most often, a behavior of 'fight or flight'. She may insist on respect, feigning satisfaction, which leaves her partner out of reality and the possibility of supporting it, or you can escape from sexual intimacy claiming headaches, tiredness and, again, avoiding the partner's support, besides allowing he feels rejected without being able to actually understand what is acontecendo.Vale remember that sometimes, the abuse of a partner about their low desire concerning the excessive need it, since the strength of his desire and the frequency range of each person and relate to family, social and age. Moreover, lack of sexual desire is not related to lack of love, sex can not be confused with love. Sometimes this problem can be transferred to the partner who is seen as a constant enemy and blamed for the loss of desire. Depression is an expected consequence as well as marital discord. It is noteworthy that for this situation be sorted, it must cause marked distress or interpersonal difficulty of some kind and not reflective of any general medical condition. An advanced stage of Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder is Disorder Sexual Aversion whose key feature is the aversion and avoidance of genital sexual contact, where it is reported anxiety, fear or refusal to meet before a sexual opportunity. Etiology Sexual desire is understood as a complex experiential created by three basic components: the biology, psychology and socialization. Often these factors act simultaneously and are mutually reinforcing. Dysfunction of this order is often caused by psychosocial factors, but the organic side can also compose this picture, although more rare than the other. Organic factors: hormonal imbalances caused by birth , breastfeeding, menopause and contraception, changes in neurotransmitters, anemia, increased prolactin, congestive heart failure or hypothyroidism, decreased testosterone or estrogen, nodules or vaginal infections, depression, anhedonia, drugs (alcohol, tranquilizers, anti-hypertensives, marijuana, amphetamines, cocaine and crack), dyspareunia and some physical injuries, among others. Psychosocial factors: form of creation, enforcement and negative cultural influences, difficulties concentrating on erotic feelings by having sexual activity may seem boring and unpleasant, emotional blockages, lack of investment in the relationship, emotional and sexual immaturity, difficulty in relationships with (a) partner (a), anger between the couple, resentment and sorrow, feelings of not fulfillment, sexual dysfunction in partner, professional frustrations, difficulties in reconciling motherhood with other roles, trauma of sexual abuse or rape taboo about sexuality, lack of intimacy with the body and with your partner, traumas, fears and guilt, anti-sexual messages during childhood, low self-esteem, negative evaluation of the partner, disappointment and misunderstanding, religious, aspects of recovery negative sexuality, stress, depression and anxiety, fear of any reprisals by sex, intimacy, pleasure to get a "forbidden and sinful," the commitment or pregnancy, partner or unsatisfactory sexual activity, sexual routine, negative values related to sexuality , excessive concern with life in general and give pleasure to (a) partner (a), shame, embarrassment and frustration, sexual practices, little or nothing gratifying, physical exhaustion and / or mental illness, lack of dialogue between the couple, difficulties with daily life, among others. Treatment A growing number seeking help because they feel sexual motivation. Looking for sex therapists, gynecologists and even by friends, but rarely talk about this subject with their partner because they feel insecure in the stability of their relationships. This is one of the most difficult disorders to treat, as a rule already dysfunction accompanies the individual for years. Maybe by prejudice or shame when they search for help usually already are well shaken with a relationship frayed by disputes and mistrust (it's pretty common to believe that the partner is betrayed), and disagreements. In treatment, the primary focus is the dysfunction and should be doing a reading of the conflict in order to know if there is any emotional or psychological difficulties, or if the problem is physical. However, the work beyond the disappearance of the symptom, tends to favor conditions for restructuring in many facets of life: it involves the treatment of diseases involved, the replacement of medications that may be interfering with sexual response and sometimes, correction of hormonal changes. The goal is to encounter the contributing causes of such a complaint and for that there are three paths to be traced: individually meet the woman who has such questions or make a couple therapy, or even the whole of the two processes. Individual sessions aims at creating conditions to expand the self-seeking to identify how women are building such a framework, which has learned from him, what he has to tell about herself and the way they operate and the relationship with the environment. It is in therapy, therefore, to revise misconceptions and provides guidance, opening up new perspectives. The woman can probably better understand their limitations, knowing a new expectation to learn to relate in the environment he lives in a more satisfactory and adjusted. Couple therapy, aims to facilitate the communication of it and seek to learn about the workings of the relationship. Because this couple is moving away and for what. In many cases the relationship is so poor, that sex becomes an obligation and thus it will not be able to generate pleasure. Sexuality and the way that women relate to it is the product of events that apparently have nothing to do with sex. Human sexuality goes beyond the sexual act. It encompasses other activities such as fantasies, masturbation and erotic thoughts. Thus, to overcome such a picture leads to learning and self-knowledge, leading to changes beyond sexuality. Treatment of any sexual dysfunction should be accompanied by a professional whose knowledge of the mechanisms of sexual response, and its stages.
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